Tobi Hill-Meyer

I had a titgasm for Queer Porn TV and I loved it.

Location: Eugene, OR
Identities: Indigenous, colonized mestiza, poly, kinky, trans woman, queerspawn, activist, butch, feminist, pan-dyke, genderqueer…
What makes you queer and/or sexually transgressive? All my life I’ve had a drive to surround myself with queer people and community.  Queerness gets me hot.  I’m a major dyke, but there are definitely some hot queer guys that I go for.
As for sexual transgression, the vast majority of my lovers have been other trans and genderqueer folks, and my ability to love in them the characteristics I have been taught to hate about myself has been more than transgressive, it’s been revolutionary.
How has being a queer porn star changed your life? Being a queer porn star has given me more confidence, helped me be more comfortable in my body, helped me connect to a wonderfully supportive community, and taught me a whole lot about filmmaking.  Most importantly, it’s led me to feel that my community is entitled to a healthy and self-directed sexuality.
Trans women are often told we need to hate our bodies and our sexuality.  Denial of medical care is threatened if we admit to liking sex before vaginoplasty.  Alternatively, we are often expected to find validation through being sexually available to men.  Again, medical care can be denied if we admit not being attracted to men.  We deserve better than these options.  We deserve sexuality on our own terms.  And queer porn is one way I’ve found that delivers that.
Pitch your life as a reality tv show. I’ll host a competition elimination show with activists from my life ranging from performance artists, professional fundraisers, anarchists, sex workers, and local leaders of the Democratic party.  Challenges will be based around conflict resolution, analyzing/explaining oppression in hostile situations, peer sex ed, navigating poly-drama, identifying abusive behaviors and structures, building healthy sexual community, and facilitating consensus.  The surprise winner will be a previously eliminated contestant who rejects the structure of the show.
Dish about a hot exhibitionist experience: The first time I engaged in explicit sexual activity at a party was when I took my partner, Briar, to a crowded conference play party, tied hir to a rack, flogged hir, and fucked hir with my strapon.  Confronting and overcoming the urge to be self-conscious was liberating. Afterward, a woman came up to tell me she was very impressed that I could hide my strap-on under such a tight skirt and asked me how I did it.  My secret was simple: carry your cock in a bag until the right moment.
What is your favorite sex toy? I’ll always have a soft spot in my heart for my first dildo.  She’s a Mistress by Vixen Creations, red and black swirls with a heart shaped flourish at it’s base.  They don’t seem to make color swirls anymore, so she really is irreplaceable.  To this day she’s the only thing I ever call “my cock.”
Tell us about your QPTV scene. I’ve worked with Maya a couple of times before, both times from behind the camera, and although we’ve fucked off camera, we’ve wanted to do a scene together for a while.  Queer Porn TV gave us the perfect opportunity.
While we were setting up, my lover Rose Pedals, was being shot in the same room for NoFauxxx.com.  Sexual creative energy filled the room.  By the time the cameras were rolling, Maya and I were more than ready to go at it.  I love fucking Maya because she never gets enough and is constantly pushing me on for more.  To top it off, her resilient smile and deep compassion gives me a real heart-on.